For the last 3 days I’ve put myself under house arrest – no going, no doing, no talking, no supportive listening, no helping, no driving, and no interacting. What brought this on? Why wouldn’t I want to go, do, help? Because I’ve been doing all those things non-stop since I arrived in Oregon and I’ve completely worn myself out! Pockets of solitude is what I NEED for my life. Although I love all those things I’ve just spent 3-days avoiding, it drains my energy and I need solitude to get my mojo back. Since I wasn’t doing a good job at setting boundaries for myself and using that beautiful word “No”, I finally hit my wall.
Even my wall doesn’t use the word “No” as much as it needs to.
And here we are, my first day back among the living, self-pep talk given and newly dedicated to setting aside time each day for solitude. Today it was going for a walk in the forest where I foraged for wild edibles that would add sparkle to my next meal – clover, dead nettle, pine and dandelion. It was a relaxed meandering, not a hunt. A walk by myself in nature what the goal.
So what did I “do” while I was under house arrest? How did I spend my time of solitude? Why in utter succulence of course! I slept in AND took long naps, I read books that made me laugh and listened to music that made me fall in love. I drank red wine and cooked for myself in a slow, meditative way – smelling, feeling and tasting each ingredient as I went. I drank Pu-erh aged tea from my antique daffodil teacup. I ate vanilla ice cream with spices like cardamom and chocolate chili or lemon balsamic vinegar mixed in. I smoked Turkish tobacco from my hookah, I looked at old photo albums and travel journals reliving past memories and adventures. I colored and painted. I looked appreciatively at the sunny yellow cottage I’m lucky enough to be living in.
I spent time with myself.
Yes, yes not everyone can take 3-days to escape from the world, not everyone would even want to. However, I believe that we all want some time just for us. True? And that even if you have children, pets, a spouse, a powerfully important career, absolutely no money, or health issues – you can find time, if you wanted to, for yourself. Even 15-minutes at the beginning and/or end of the day. Or even better, build many moments throughout each day.
YOU are important.
Ways of taking time for yourself are unlimited – sitting still and daydreaming, taking a walk and enjoying the beauty around you, coloring in a color book, reading, eating at your favorite restaurant and experiencing each moment rather than simply shoveling food in your mouth, buying yourself flowers, cooking or baking, taking a nap, taking a bath….anything that creates a refreshed YOU.
“Solitude is the soul’s holiday, an opportunity to stop doing for others and to surprise and delight ourselves instead.” — Katrina Kenison
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